Well, um, sure. I said, "I wonder if people unknowingly express interest in others because they don't recognise expressions of interest in others", and you said, "people who really want you will throw themselves at you, I find", which to me looks like you're either discussing some other aspect of the mating game or you're trying to publicise successful experiences, neither of which addresses what I think is an interesting point of discussion. Adopting what appears to be the tone of your reply, you can be pretty dumb for an interesting American, you know.